Sunday, November 30, 2008

November 30, 2008

 Happy Thanksgiving!

 What's been happening since I last updated? Not too much and a lot, all at once. The bad news is that I was stood up almost every day this week by the mudir of the madrasa (principal of primary school), which means the project I've been trying to get off the ground for the last 4-5 months isn't going anywhere. He told me we could meet at a certain time, then was a no-show.

The good news is that tomorrow, which is World AIDS day, I will actually be doing a project in collaboration with an amazing women's association in my souk town. It's a bit intense. I've been wanting to do an AIDS education booth at souk for awhile, and figured World AIDS Day is as good of a day as any. I figured out what I had to do to get it off the ground, and randomly stopped at the hospital in my souk town to ask them a silly question (where is the Pacha's office?). They ended up getting me in touch with this women's association, and in collaboration, we totally re-vamped the project. After struggling for the last few days to find money and a tent (I found both… by 6 pm tonight!), we met today and it was awesome to see all the women learning and reviewing about HIV/AIDS to teach tomorrow at souk.

 I'm just sad that I found an association willing and wanting to work with me so close to my end of service.

 We'll see how tomorrow goes. I'm excited. J It should be fun and hopefully good.

 

Sunday, November 23, 2008

November 21, 2008

 

I believe last time I updated was just after the election; since then, I've actually been relatively busy, which is always good.

 

The weekend after the election, I went to my friend's site, which is only about 15 k away. She hosted a group of Americans (and one Canadian) during their gap year between high school and college on a Global Labs program. This was a lot of fun, and it's another great organization. I never thought that working with Peace Corps, I'd learn a lot about American organizations that I also believe in.

 

There were 9 young adults in the program, and they spent two days in her town. The first day, we met up with some English-speaking middle and high school students and had a very interesting cross-cultural conversation. Some tribal rivalries came up, which was something I didn't expect: my site is made up of only one tribe, not two tribes with an unfriendly history. After the activity where we discussed things like wedding traditions, the role of women, movies, music, tribes, the American dream, and education from both perspectives, they broke into two groups, mixed American and Moroccan, and planned out two murals that we would later paint as a group on the wall of the girl's boarding house.

 

After a group lunch at my friends' house, we all went to the local elementary school, where the volunteers and Moroccan students and a few PCVs broke into groups and did a toothbrushing and dental hygiene in every classroom. It was great seeing the Moroccan students take over after the first lesson or so, and I think the American volunteers had fun helping the children brush their teeth.

 

Night came, and the PCVs and Global Lab's fearless leader relaxed at home. I might add that cooking was also rather intense during this time: the night before everyone came, a friend of mine who was also there cooked fish Moroccan style… which meant that she sat in front of a bucket of bloody, bone-ridden water deboning and filleting large sardine-like fish for a few hours.

 

(They were delicious though, and I actually tried something similar tonight. When we bought the fish that first time, they said they would clean them for us, though we didn't do that. I asked them to do it today when I bought a single fish that was about ½ kg. I didn't know what kind of fish it was, but I figured they'd hand it to me in little filets. However, I was running short on time, so as the fish-seller was de-boning, I ran other errands, then came back and picked it up. When I got home, it was there, spine and head and all. Thank God Zika was willing to eat the parts I couldn't figure out how to debone. I ended up deep-frying a few strips, and rather than stuff it with the filling, I made it almost like a Moroccan salsa on top of the fried fish filet strips: minced cilantro and parsley, garlic, salt, diced onion, and lime juice. Fantastic. Really. I'll make it at home.)

 

Other food adventures included a rather easy sandwich lunch for 13 or 14, spaghetti for that many, and homemade tomato soup and grilled cheese. I will never again eat Campbells tomato soup when it is so easy and delicious to make it from scratch.

 

The next day we actually painted the murals, then continued the health education lessons. It all went much smoother than I could have hoped for, and I think overall my friend was happy with how it went.

 

The next week, it really started raining, I got a cold, and I want to say I did something else important, though I can't think of what it was. That Thursday, however, I was off to the provincial capitol for our province-wide training of medical professionals project.

 

In short, 24 nurses and doctors working in rural areas throughout the province attended a continuing education conference that we worked on with the Ministry of Health and Peace Corps. Education topics included: a session on Peace Corps and what we do, basic hygiene in various arenas and the role of the medical professional, information and discussion regarding how to provide health care for pregnant women in rural areas, STIs/HIV/AIDS, and how to be an effective communicator and educator. There were pluses and minuses, but all in all it was a success. If anyone ever asks me why I studied French in high school, I have to say if it was for nothing other than this weekend, it was worth it.

 

I've pretty much spent the last week recovering and collaborating on the final report, as well as trying to be social in my community. Today was a great but crazy day…

 

I started off by going to visit a woman who had given birth three days previously. Last night, I was coming back from visiting a friend (the electricity had gone out, so we sat around telling stories in the dark), a few women in town who I talk to occasionally told me I should go this morning and that if I came and knocked on one of their doors, they'd take me. Okay, no problem. We went, I had the obligatory perfume sprayed liberally all over my jacket, politely denied eating the bitter walnut bark and herbs for the hair, palmed the 5-dirham coin and slipped it to the new mother, oohed and ahhed over the baby… then was taken upstairs to eat taam and udi.

 

As soon as I think I "know" something, even as simple as traditions when a baby is born in my town, I'm proven wrong. Evidently, every time a baby is born, for a week when people come visit the mother, the family serves taam and udi every morning. Since I had never been in the morning and have always visited in the afternoon, this was new to me, and everyone laughed at my surprise. A few women I haven't seen since the election told me "Mbrook rais!"—congratulations on your new president! And then I headed out, because I've been trying to talk to the principal of the local elementary school for over a month now and we keep missing each other.

 

On my way, I stopped in the neddi and saw all the women weren't working on normal projects, but were spinning wool into yarn. I wish I had the time to stop and try; I'll have to go back another day soon. Just as I was about to enter the school walls, one of "my" girls came out with a paper for me. "My teacher told me to give this to you." I understood the paper—it was announcing a celebration to accompany the opening of a middle school in my town. The building isn't there yet, but students are meeting with new teachers in the neddi until the building is completed. This is fantastic, because until this year,  anyone from my town who wanted their children to have an education past primary school had to send them to a boarding house or to live with family in a bigger town.

 

I ended up setting up a meeting for next week with the mudir (principal), and headed to a friend's house, who promptly invited me on a picnic/hike next week. Fantastic. Those are always fun, and with a small group of people I know and like, it should really be a great time, if cold. We went out to a sedaqa—a Friday tradition where families will occasionally give "charity" by cooking big plates of couscous for the neighbors. I don't know in my town how much is charity as much as it is just tradition to get together, but they're always fun, and certainly not just for poor people. After the sedaqa, we played soccer with the neighbor kids. I was pleasantly shocked that my friend—a 23-year old unmarried girl—played along.

 

At 2, I hopped on the afternoon bus into my souk town, hoping to talk to the Pacha's (mayor) office about doing a World AIDS day table at the weekly market next week. I had my letter printed out literally weeks ago, but I kept either running out of time, or showing up when the person I needed to talk to wasn't in. I decided, on a whim, to stop in the Centre de Sante (clinic/hospital) in my souk town to see if they had any suggestions. They did, they corrected my letter, and then put me in touch with a local women's association who might want to help participate, and we set up a joint meeting for all of us on Wednesday. Next week is looking ridiculously busy, which is, as I say, fantastic: meeting with mudir on Monday, hike/picnic on Tuesday, meeting in my souk town on Wednesday, and, if we are able to pull off the AIDS day booth for next Monday, I probably will have to travel back to the provincial capitol on Thursday or Friday to pick up brochures… of course, making it back to my friends' site for the weekend for Thanksgiving and a birthday celebration.

 

Back on the bus at 4:30, and now I'm at home, listening to podcasts, doing dishes, and cooking the delicious fish, dehydrating bread crumbs on the stove for stuffing, and packing for Thanksgiving #1 tomorrow night. I love days like today.

 

A few recent recipes:

 

Apple-Fennel Salad: (In season right now: apples, fennel, mandarin oranges)

 

4 small apples, preferably yellow or green

1 medium to large bulb of fennel

4 Tbsp olive oil

5 mandarin oranges 

1 lemon or lime

pinch of fennel seed 

pinch salt

 

Wash fennel and apples well. If good with a knife, slice apples and white and light green part of fennel in thin, uniform slices. If not, do what I do and dice them uniformly. Section three mandarin oranges and dice; juice remaining two mandarins and lemon, toss with salad, mixing in olive oil. Divide among four plates, sprinkle fennel seed and finely chopped fennel fronds on each plate. Garnish with one large fennel frond.

 

 

Orange-Fennel Pepper Stir-Fry

 

1 red bell pepper, cut in strips

1 yellow bell pepper, cut in strips

1 small to medium bulb fennel, cut in strips (slice in ovals, cut ovals in half)

1 medium red onion, cut in strips

2 cloves garlic, minced

4 mandarin oranges (3- juiced, 1- save skin, 1- separated into segments)

Vegetable oil for sautéing

2 tbs sesame oil

2 tbs soy sauce

1 tsp sesame seeds, toasted

1 tsp fennel seeds, toasted

1 tbs sugar

pinch salt

pinch ginger powder (or if available- pinch ginger powder and sliced fresh ginger)

Sliced green onions

 

Heat vegetable oil in wok, frying pan, or sautee pan. Add garlic, onion, and fennel, sautee until almost tender. Add pepper, juice of 3 mandarin oranges, sugar, salt, ginger powder, and peel of 1 mandarin orange. Sautee until pepper is crisp-tender, add sesame oil, soy sauce, mandarin segments, and sesame seeds, heat through, serve. Garnish with additional fennel seeds, sesame seeds, and sliced green onions.

 

 

Moroccan-Style White-Fish

(not my recipe)

 

Filets of small fish; can use sardine or fish bigger than sardines (I have no idea what kind of fish I used or that my friend used, to be honest)

Flour

Vegetable oil for frying

Salt

 

Filling/topping

 

1 bunch fresh cilantro

1 bunch fresh parsley

2 cloves garlic

Juice from 2 limes

Diced small red onion

 

 

Filling:


Finely mince garlic and fresh herbs, add to diced onion and mix with salt and lime juice. Set aside.

 

Fish:

If using small fish, each fish should have two equal-sized filets. Spread filling thinly on one side of filet; place other filet on top. Coat with flour; deep fry or pan fry until lightly browned.  Serve with extra topping.

 

 

Seared Filet Mignon with Demi-glace

(What, you didn't believe that my pseudo-vegetarian self would ever cook and enjoy steak? When the U.S. economy is doing what it's doing and I can get filet mignon for under $3.50 a pound, you better believe I'll take advantage of it!)

 

½-1 kilo filet mignon*

Real butter, softened

4 cloves garlic

Salt and pepper

Rosemary

Small amount of crumbled bleu cheese

 

Rub raw garlic cloves on both sides of each filet. Slather each filet with softened butter on each side; not too much is needed. Lightly rub in salt, pepper, and rosemary. Slice garlic cloves and add a few thin slices on each side of filet.

 

Sear for about 2-3 minutes on each side on Teflon pan or grill for 2-3 minutes on each side until you reach the desired doneness. Just before taking off heat, sprinkle thin layer of bleu cheese on one side. Finish for a minute or two in oven on medium heat. Drizzle plate with demi-glace, place filet, and garnish with sprig of fresh rosemary.

 

Demi-glace:

 

This recipe makes more than needed, but demi-glace can be frozen for months. If you have a freezer, pour remaining demi-glace in ice cube trays, and pop them out as needed for soups, meats, or anything else that used demi-glace. I'm new to demi-glace, but "Sidi Google" will help with ideas. 

 

4-8 cups of beef or lamb stock (or boullion/Knor cubes with water)

2 cups red wine

1 bay leaf

Tsp pepper

Tsp salt 

Tsp sage or thyme or both

3 cloves garlic

As much butter as you dare to use, depending on desired fat content

 

Bring first 7 ingredients to a boil, then simmer until reduced to the point where it will coat a spoon. Just before serving, add butter to portion that is going to be used for the night's meal; freeze the rest for another day without the butter.

 

 

 

 

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

October 20, 2008

It's been a busy last few weeks, which is good!

Two weeks ago, we had one of our quarterly delegue meetings with the provincial ministry of health representatives. It went well for the most part, though one of my friends and I have to go back on the 28th to meet and discuss the final steps for the Training of Trainers next month. I'm excited and hope it all goes well.

On my way there, I stopped at my friend's association. He is a SBD—Small Business Development—volunteer and works at a handicapped association in my souk town. I think I blogged about the first time I visited the association. This time was no different: amazing. Not only did I get to spend time with incredible people, but I also was invited to try the pottery wheel and made a small cup that they told me they will fire for me. Awesome, and even more awesome that my teacher was a handicapped member of the association.

I also had my friend over the day before that; she's my teacher friend from around Marrakech who speaks pretty good English. She always has me over to her house, so I decided I had to have her over for lunch, and made what I considered to be fancy food for her: spaghetti with tomato sauce and filet mignion. Unfortunately, I don't think she liked either one of them. We did have fun chatting though.

I had some other friends from my town over to eat lunch last weekend, which was also fun and slightly crazy. We played cards, played music, ate, and just generally spent time together. For them, I made pasta with meat sauce, which, again, did not go over as well as I had hoped. Oh, well. I think it is all about what people are used to, and not a slight on my cooking ability.

However, from last Monday through Friday, I was able to participate in what is potentially one of the most effective and incredible charities I've ever seen in action: Operation Smile. If you have extra money sitting around (I know, not during this economy!) and you don't want to donate to any Peace Corps project grants (www.peacecorps.gov), I can tell you that from what I saw, Operation Smile would be a great place to donate: they do good work that really does make a difference, it seems to be working slowly but surely to become sustainable in the countries they go to, and the surgeries are life-changing for the children and adults.

We went thinking we would do health lessons, but I got conscripted almost immediately into translation the first two days for medical records. It reminded me of my old job, when I'd go through medical records with Spanish-speakers occasionally… but this time in Berber! It was slightly hectic, especially since there were no birthdates for many of the patients we screened, or trying to figure out how to get some of the people from very rural areas to give us the most complete address possible, but good to see so many people able to come out, and different associations that helped get people to the site.

After two days of screening and talking to the awesome volunteers with OpSmile, I stayed for two days of surgeries. The organization brought an incredible crew: nurses, medical records people, 5 plastic surgeons, 4 anesthesiologists, a child life therapist, dentist, pediatrician, and speech therapist, all of whom donated almost two weeks out of their busy schedules to volunteer. They came from all over the world, and were all very generous with us as well, something completely unexpected, letting us use their shower at their hotel (there were 10 volunteers sleeping on a local volunteer's floor!), or buying us a drink or two at night, or even just by showering us with leftover toothbrushes or American chocolate. Peanut butter cups have never tasted so delicious!

The surgery days were even more hectic, but surprisingly well-organized. The first morning of surgeries, I helped facilitate new patients: filling out medical records with them, and then finding the pediatrician, medical records photographers, surgeons, dentists, speech therapists, and nurses, who were spread around the hospital, translating for the patients. That afternoon, I spent most of my time in pre-op, talking and playing with the children who were waiting for surgeries, doing health lessons with them and their parents, and comforting the parents to the best of my ability. The kids were surprisingly well-behaved after, in some cases, 24 hours in the same room without being able to eat or drink.

The next day, Friday, I did the same thing, but was also able to do something I never imagined I would be able to do: I observed some of the surgeries in the OR. We scrubbed out, wearing shoecovers, masks, hair nets, and scrubs, and were able to watch four different surgeries at once—including my friend's baby girl, my tutor's cousin. There were four surgeries going on at a time, and one of the people who was photographing before and after pictures of the children explained what was going on at each step. It was a lot simpler of a procedure than I imagined.

I left a little early on Friday to go home, something that was hard but that I felt like I should do. Zika (my cat) had been home alone for 4 nights, and I was worried about having left a housekey with a neighbor. I was glad for two reasons to have come back when I did- Zika was stuck on the roof (!), and the next morning, I woke up with strep throat—definitely not something I wanted around children just coming out of surgery!

It was hard to leave because there was something almost magical about being able to participate, however peripherally, in Operation Smile. I don't know if it was just being surrounded with other people who believe in public health and volunteerism, if it was some of the encouragement that I received from them, or being able to share in something unique and wonderful as one of their missions. Whatever it was, it was hard to leave, and I hope to be able to be involved with them in some way after my Peace Corps service is over.

Now, I'm at home with strep throat, though I feel much better today than yesterday. I have to run into town this afternoon to get amoxicillin, and will hopefully have enough time to update the blog then!

Peace!

October 24, 2008

Evidently, I didn't get a chance to blog when I went into town last week. I was able to pick up this year's Carte de Sejour: like a green card, and I met my new gendarme commander of the brigade around my souk town. It was an interesting conversation, to say the least. This is the third or fourth new commander in the last year and a half, and he wanted to make sure he knew that our safety (our meaning the few foreign residents in the around 100,000 person area) was his number one priority even above citizens. This was a little uncomfortable, to tell the truth, because though I appreciate being safe, I hate the fact that we're treated differently, even if it's better. It's a privilege that I don't think I deserve. He was shocked that we chose to come to Morocco to work in the countryside and learned Berber (and set about translating three or four proverbs from Tassousite Berber into French for me), and said that we need to be careful because people here are thieves, which is the opposite of what I've experienced. It was an intense little conversation, but I'm glad that I have my carte and don't have to carry my passport around.

I spent the night at one of my friends' houses (the English-speaking teacher), which is always fun. We woke up in the morning and went jogging, and I was gleeful to be able to watch a few hours of CNN while she taught classes. I stayed at her house most of Wednesday because we thought the principal of the schools would come to drop something off and I wanted to talk to him. Instead, I stayed until three; he still hadn't shown up, so I went to the school instead and got conditional permission to teach lessons there. There's still a lot of red tape to go through, but I was excited nevertheless that he is on board with everything.

The next morning, bright and early, I got up to do another Equippe-Mobile run. It was amazing, even if I had to walk to the sbitar at 4:45 am to be there on time. The first two places were around where I spent a week last spring, so the two teachers at the school remembered me, and shockingly, so did the children. They answered correctly every question I posed about the toothbrushing lesson last April: how many times a day it's important to brush, what to use if you don't have toothpaste (salt), what foods are good and bad for dental health… even my name and what country I was from (!). Most of them were able to understand the basic hygiene lesson that I gave them, which was good.

The next stop was literally the small cluster of houses I stayed with for a week, and not only did they all remember me and ask me why I hadn't come back, but one family had prepared me a bag of almonds and pomegranates from their farm to bring back, and just the sincerity in their eyes as they made me promise to come back was really meaningful. It was rewarding as well, because they also answered some questions about past lessons correctly, and I got to see the six-month old baby girl that was due around when I was there. I remembered sitting with the mother and going over how to have a safe, clean home birth, and though I don't know how much she followed, her baby was beautiful and healthy.

I have to go back.

October 25, 2008

(continued from above)

The third big stop was at another school in the next village. I was able to do a toothbrushing lesson and give out 90 toothbrushes, one to each child, that some of the Operation Smile volunteers gave me before I left. Some of the women were interested and engaged in both the basic and dental hygiene lessons, though I spent most of the time there with the kids. At their insistence, I gave my phone number to a few of them and have already gotten a call from one of them today when they went to a place with "rizo" (phone reception).

The last stop was at what I think is one of the most interesting "bled" (countryside) mosques I've seen: instead of a minaret tower, they have a large pointed dome with a loudspeaker. It was really heartwarming there as well; a friend in my town is originally from there, and so many of them knew me from months ago or because of that connection; people I don't ever remember seeing in my life knew my name, where I lived in my town, and other things. They too begged me to come back and stay sometime. I'd like to… and they were all engaged and actually thanked me for lessons; something I've never had happen.

October 26, 2008

I can't believe how fast these months are going and how fast these days fly by!

Equippe-Mobile was, as always, fantastic. I don't even remember what I did on Friday, though yesterday was a little crazy. Touda, one of my favorite people in town… well… I'll back up. I mentioned to her daughter and some other friends when they came over to eat lunch last week that I loved a dish that is only eaten in my town when families have stale bread. It is a delicious dish with vegetables, lentils, broth, and spices, poured over torn stale bread. I mentioned that I loved it, and so Touda knocked on my door (a 20 minute walk from her house) at 7:30 that morning.

"You told me a few days ago you have lentils… if you give me some, I'll make that dish you like." No problem, so after tea and coffee, she left and invited me for lunch. I was bombarded by some of my girls who asked if they could spend the night. I was a little nervous about it, but reluctantly agreed, then headed to Touda's for lunch, conversation, and television watching. A neighbor woman my age came over almost as soon as I got home, and we looked at my pictures together, then as soon as she left, the three girls that are probably my favorites, came over.

It wasn't as crazy as I thought it'd be; they were asleep by 11, miraculously, and they did some pretty funny "plays" for me using my clothes as "dress-up." My favorites were when one of them dressed up like an old nomad shepard woman complete with staff and taheruyt, and another wore a tan Moroccan shirt of mine that is long on me and it fit her almost exactly like a man's jellaba. She used a scarf like old men do here and was convincing. We also did face masks, which was really something novel for them.

They enjoyed the "risotto" (pretty much everything I had left in my house thrown in a pressure cooker: rice, lentils, random vegetables, bullion, spices, and, their favorite, a few wedges of Laughing Cow cheese) and while I washed dishes, they "set up" the tea room (salon): lighting all my candles and cleaning up. Right before bed, we had cookies, hot milk with sugar, and pomegranate by candlelight. I suppose it was a successful sleepover for them, and it was fun regressing back to the times of my own sleepovers, though they didn't quite pick up on the idea of a pillow fight.

Today, they got angry when I kicked them out at ten; I had been with people from my town for over 24 hours nonstop and it was draining, especially since I've become so accustomed to having alone time. Other kids came over later (I felt guilty because they were too young and wild for me to let them spend the night), and I was followed around when I ran to the store to buy food.

I'm off again early tomorrow morning because I have another meeting on Tuesday morning in the provincial capital.

My parents called me tonight to wish me a happy early birthday. Apparently, right before they called, some Obama campaigners came to their house looking for me. They asked if I was home; my parents said I was in Morocco. "Oh, she won't be voting then," they said. They corrected them and said I had voted absentee weeks ago. They asked who I supported, my father answered in a way that didn't tell them directly but made it quite clear. Strange, that North Carolina might be a swing state this election. I love the fact that most PCVs I know here vote absentee if they get their ballot in time, and that we can have good conversations about politics, though someone who chooses not to get involved in the discussions say that we "fight over things we agree on," which is somewhat true, at least among people I see often in my province.

Next time I update, most likely we'll know the outcome of the election. Crazy. I'm going to try to spend the night of the 4th at my friends' house who has a television, and see if I can bribe her to let me watch all morning on the 5th. There is a 4 hour time difference, so we might not know anything until 8 am anyway. Or it could be the 2000 election again where that's really wishful thinking. Adig rbi str.

Okay. I must pack for two nights. Take care!

November 4, 2008

Election day! I hope all you at home are voting or already have!

The other delegue meeting went wonderfully, as did a little birthday get-together I had (where I cooked filet mignion seared with butter, garlic, and rosemary, plated with demi-glace (a wine-herb-stock-butter reduction sauce), coated with crumbled blue cheese. Price per plate of ingredients? Under $2. A friend made potato skins and then woke up and made a fantastic breakfast the next day) and a crazy Halloween get-together where I dressed as Sarah Palin. I now have bangs and don't know what to do with them.

I'm off, just wanted to update before another 2 or 3 months go by!
 
 
November 5, 2008
 
I have never been prouder of being an American than today.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

September 24, 2008

First of all, apologies for taking so long to blog. There's no way I
can catch up, so instead, I will sort of give a more categorical
update according to themes. It's not very fluid or organic, but given
how much ground there is to cover, it's the best I can do.

Here's what I hope to cover from the last two months: work, play,
faith, struggles, and hopes.

Work:

Ever the American, of course, work comes first. In short, there hasn't
been much. I spent most of July preparing for what I thought was going
to be one of the best and biggest things I've done in my site so far,
something that I rested a lot of hopes on: the health component of the
Tamazitinu Cultural Week. For more on that, go to "Struggles." (I like
this categorizing; I can put negative things off).

I have, however, had the girls come over quite a bit while school was
out for the summer, which is fun but exhausting. There was a lot of
play and some work involved, but we did things like made dinner
together, including a proud moment when one of the girls looked at the
lentils and said, "Oh, that's a protein!" There were more showers at
my house too, which quickly depleted my shampoo supply, but kept the
girls happy and clean. And, when, as a health volunteer, your girls
group tells you that their parents don't want them using water to
shower more than once a week in 110 degree weather, and they know that
it's healthier for them to shower, it's hard to say no.

I've been doing a lot of planning for after Ramadan, including a lot
of lesson plans and letters in French begging asking if I can work in
the schools.

This summer has also marked something that I've been needing to do but
putting off for months: officially (to Peace Corps and myself, at
least) canceling the incinerator project. I've known from the
beginning it was something that I was pushing and not something
community-initiated but I kept hoping that it would catch on. It was
down to the wire: I had helped write the joint grant, do the budget,
make structural changes to the plans, and was invested in the project
completely… but that was the problem. I was the only one really
invested in it. The provincial government wasn't willing to commit to
$12 or $24 a year for their part because of budgetary constraints and
prior project success rates, and, more importantly, my community
wasn't really excited about it or invested in it. Would it have worked
out well despite that? Possibly. But it's against the Peace Corps
development work position to do a physical project and write a grant
without community participation and involvement, and it felt like I
was pulling teeth every step of the way.

In other words, it's better that I not impose my priorities and values
on the community. Plain and simple. So the other two people in the
province who are doing the project in their communities sent in the
grant without my community. Maybe, if I get replaced when I leave, my
talking about it will have sparked some interest later on.
The Training of Trainers project is coming along, with roadblocks, but
pretty well, I'd say. We'll see how it goes in November (!) which is
coming up fast.

Another pseudo-work project was that I served as a trainer for a VSN
(Volunteer Support Network) training with two others. That was a lot
of fun and helped me remember how much I do love being in front of
people and teaching or performing. It was great to get to know some of
the new health and environment volunteers, and it was a good review
for me as far as how to be a good active listener and support people
who are going through hard times. I think there's a saying that the
best way to test someone's comprehension of something is to get them
to teach someone else. I'd agree with that wholeheartedly.

Play:

I've had a lot of time to play between updates, since life stands
still almost during the summer here. It's too hot to leave the house
except mornings and evenings in mid-summer, and my counterpart, the
nurse at my sbitar, was gone for a month, essentially emptying out the
sbitar. Nobody goes to the neddi to learn how to sew or do crafts, and
life really starts socially after the call to prayer that here we call
"l3assr:" at 5:30 pm.

If that doesn't create an indolent PCV, then once Ramadan started at
the beginning of the month, life stands even more still, with people
fasting from sunup to sundown (4:30 am until about 6:30 right now).
Working hours are cut drastically, and some people, like my
hostmother, don't even really leave the house. I ate lftor (the
breaking of the fast meal) at her house the other day (day 20 of
Ramadan), and she counted the number of times she left the house on
one hand.

So… what better time than to have a friend come visit from home? And,
really, what a bizarre time as well, with cities shutting down for
30-40 minutes at sunset…

I had a blast cavorting around the country. As with when a different
friend came in June, I made her take the train alone to meet me in
Marrakech to save myself a precious vacation day, and she was a good
sport about it. I really love Kech these days, and little things like
getting in the Palais Bahia for free because the guard asked if I was
a resident after my 30 seconds of broken Arabic and waved me in, or
the fact that the DVD guys let me change out bootlegs that don't work
without question even make it better.

I'm beginning to "get" Kech; learning how to walk everywhere or
finding nishan taxi drivers who are quick to turn on their meters when
asked faster than before, or how to get one of those overattentive
shopkeepers in the souks to leave you alone (just ask them to do you a
favor and the harassment stops. "Do you know where there's a CD
store?" "What song is playing in your shop; I want it?" "Can you tell
me which way to Jamaa Al-fna?" In general, they answer, then are
silent…) The cheap hotel hustlers recognize me and call out in Berber;
I know where the best 10-dirham dinner is now, and which juice guys
and tea stalls will give free refills. My knowledge about argan-nut
harvesting impresses the shopkeeper, and I'm beginning to find good,
cheap English-language books at the used stalls near the bus station.
And even the bus station is a friendlier place, once you get past the
"Essaouira" hustlers.

I'm not saying this to sound arrogant or brag about my knowledge of
the city: I've only spent, maybe, 10 nights there, total, in the last
year and a half, mostly just passing through on my way up to Rabat or
Casa. I'm saying it because my first few impressions were of an
overwhelming, dirty, big, ugly city full of sketchy touristy kitsch
and people out to fleece foreigners, and now I've come to find it
charming and vibrant.

(Though I would say to avoid eating at the chwarma place that is on
the main large pedestrian walkway up to Jamaa Al-Fna on the left. I
don't know what it's called, but it's on your left if you're walking
towards the square, just before you come to the alleyway on the right
that has arrows with "Hotel." It's two stories, with a low-ceilinged
upstairs eating area you can't see well from the street, and the
chwarma and counter you order at is on your left when you walk in.
Sketchy people; mediocre food. Stay away; they're really good at
ripping people off. There is a great, cheaper, friendlier place with
an outdoor seating area on the right, a few shops before Ice Legend.)

Marrakech was fun, especially eating at the seafood stand on the
square, and watching people push out the carts to set up, or wandering
around near the Mellah, or just catching up on 4 years of life from
atop the Café du Glace's roof terrace.

From Kech came the pass of death down to Ouarzazate. The CTM bus was
particularly terrible, for some reason. In Oz, I tried taking my
friend to see the Taourirt Kasbah, an old mud fort near the center of
town, but we very nearly walked into Sir Ben Kingsley's stunt double
as they shot what looked like a funeral procession in a small strip in
front of the Kasbah. The movie is called "Prince of Persia," and
filming the probably 2 second shot of the back of Kingsley's character
riding down near a "village" with mourners wailing and a black
carriage following was more fun than it should have been. We thought
it was Sir Ben himself, and looked rather foolish, but had fun trying
to take pictures as my little security friend pointed out people who
had cameras out and then his friend, nicknamed "The Beef" walked over
threateningly at them and pretended like he was going to tear them
limb to limb.

A tour bus pulled through and stopped right in front of the Kasbah (we
sat on stadium-like steps across the street) and they all had cameras
and were taking pictures, so we cheered them on, clapping and
screaming; other spectators around us first were confused, then joined
in.

I made friends with the little baby security man, who spoke
Tashelheit, but he told me he couldn't run any notes to the other side
of the street. I'd have invited them to Tamazitinu, but, eh… a lost
opportunity. I guess I won't be making tagine for Sir Ben or Jake
Gyllenhaal any time soon. Or their stunt doubles.

After Oz, we tried for my site but got stuck in my souk town, and had
coffee with a silver jewelry shop owner friend in town. We also
explored the old Glaoui Kasbah, something I hadn't done even though
I'm in town almost every week. It made up for not being able to go in
the Oz kasbah, with intriguing graffiti, beautiful crumbling
archways, an abandoned, caved in staircase with a secret passage that
used to go to the center of town, probably 1.5 kilometers away, and
room after room after room. It makes me sad that it's in such a state
of disarray, but a friend of mine told me it's because the Glaoui
regime in the area was a repressive one and the locals want little to
do with the restoration of its former glory.

On to Merzouga, the sand dunes, and a rather exciting adventure out
there in a tobis. We got there and drank tea, chilling in a nice
auberge before heading out on camels to the middle of the dunes. Our
travel mates were our guide and four people from France. It had been
raining, so an eerie sort of grey dust covered parts of the dunes:
remnants of salt from the rain, possibly, and the wetness obliterated
some of the beautiful wind marks that are typically so picturesque.
But, all in all, it was a beautiful time, complete with lightning from
somewhere towards Erfoud or Rissani.

By the time we got to the campsite, we could all tell that a storm was
brewing, and after dancing in the dark to drums in the center of the
tents, we all ended up eating inside the one weather-proof tent with
interesting multi-lingual conversation (Spanish: one of the women from
France was actually from where my friend studied abroad: Guyaquil,
Ecuador, French, English, and Tash.), a fantastic tagine seasoned,
unfortunately, with sand, and we were all in the same tent that night,
wind ripping at the plastic with such force that it would have been
difficult to sleep had I not been so exhausted.

From Merzouga, we were supposed to take a tobis to Rissani or Erfoud;
however, we missed it and ended up getting a ride in a Land Rover from
the French tourists. That ride saved us at least 100 Dh each and a
good 2-3 hours travel time at the least. I went to pick up Zika from
my friend who was watching him, but she wanted to keep him longer, and
I happily agreed and ended up back in my souk town.

It was the second night of Ramadan then, and among numerous
invitations to eat lftor with complete strangers, we walked to the
Mellah, the old Jewish part of town. I knew that my souk town had a
Mellah, but didn't know where it was, since any remnants of the
Judaism there had been lost.

However, it is potentially one of my favorite places in Morocco: a
whole other world. Three or four story mud houses with passageways
over the winding alleyways are crammed together in a maze of something
that felt like what I would have imagined an old Moroccan city to be
like. People still get their water from communal fountains, girls and
women filling old oil containers from spigets, and people, once they
greet me and heard me greet back in Berber, grabbing my hands and
insisting we break fast with them. One of them is a man who works at
the hotel I stay at when I get stuck in town, and I literally had to
go in his house and meet his family, apologizing profusely that we
couldn't break fast with them. On the way to his house, the old man
gave us a tour of the Mellah, showing where the marriage windows were,
or what houses belonged to large, rich families; who had left and gone
to Israel, which Muslim families had stayed.

To think: I had been walking up and down literally a quarter of a
block away from this old part of town for over a year and never knew
it. It's amazing, the things you discover, and how little I know about
my souk town, or some of the other areas around me.

From there we went to Tamazitinu, and wandering around with lHems,
watching the children grab our hands and giggle over my friend's
tongue ring, industrial piercing, and tattoo. I've never seen them so
curious about something before; they kept asking me to have her stick
out her tongue, or asking her to talk, to see if she sounds funny, or
kids lifting up her shirt in the back to see the tattoo. They still
ask me about it. We went to my friend Touda's house (who told me that
my friend's "strange" appearance wasn't bad, she just looked like an
Arab, referring that in the more Arab-populated north of the country,
fashion and modesty is less homogeneous), and my host-family's, and
the Neddi, and the fields. It was a quick visit, but fun nevertheless.

From there, back up to Kech for my 3rd out of 4 trips on the Titchka
pass in the period of two weeks. Again, the bus driver seemed to enjoy
going as fast as he could around every hairpin curve on that
nausea-inducing road. I didn't even get to say hello to my buddies in
Taddart, the typical stop-over for most busses on the pass, though on
the way back, they remembered me and told me that there was still no
soup available. I swear, the Café Barce in Taddart has the best
2-dirham soup I've had yet in country, though I forget if it's Taddart
1 or 2. They're a few kilometers apart, the Taddarts, and some buses
stop in one, some in the other. It's probably the same town but
there's literally nothing in between them but curvy road and mountain.

And from Kech, something new for me: El Jadida (which, incidentally,
means "New"). We had been thinking of doing Essa, or adding something
else to the trip, but my friend and I had already traveled about 1600
k over the last week or so (about 1000 miles) not including the flight
to Morocco, so Jadida made the most sense, as it's close to Casa,
where she was flying from.

I'd wanted to do Jadida for awhile, since a friend of mine went and
loved it, and the old Portuguese city is a UNESCO World Heritage Site,
so we, with open minds, went, though for the week and a half before,
had been getting mixed reviews from people.

Jadida is an easy 3 hours and change bus ride from Kech, with a really
beautiful but bizarre beach. It's the flattest beach I think I've ever
been to, with a narrow strip of sand at high tide, and a huge,
flatly-packed area at low, dotted with stone outcroppings full of
tidal pools with fish, anemones, and the occasional little crab.

I've never been much of a beach person, but those three days really
did feel like vacation, though trying to find food was difficult with
most places closed during the day for Ramadan.

Our first night, after passing more soccer games on the beach than I
could count, we came upon an army truck with a rocket launcher that
pulled up to the boardwalk. After being afraid to for the first few
minutes, I took a picture, and talked to some of the soldiers. Right
at Tinwuchi (what people in Tamazitinu call the prayer right at
sundown, marking the end of fasting for the day), they lit the rocket
and it shot into the ocean, temporarily deafening me, as we were
literally maybe 15 feet away. In Marrakech, to mark sundown, they turn
on what sound like air raid sirens, though in Tamazitinu, there's only
the prayer itself, supplemented with television sets, tuned to the
call to prayer at the Cabba in Mecca.

The Portuguese city, which I called the pirate town, was eerie at
sunset. We walked there right after the rocket was shot, and everyone
was in their houses eating lftor. Something about the dim, yellow
lights and the shadows with the old church at Place Kan-Issa (Church
Plaza), next to the mosque tower next door, with archways, and the old
cobblestone streets, the sea breeze, and the cannons over the ramparts
really made me feel like I stepped back in time or onto a movie set,
but that it was all mine, because the streets were silent.

And then, after three blissful days in what I found to be the perfect
place for a vacation in Morocco, it was time to take the train up to
Casa. We stayed at Hotel Foucauld, an old place that is cheap for
Casa, with a fantastic old gated elevator surrounded by a winding
staircase. It's obvious that 50 or 60 years ago, it was a very posh
place, but now it's old and run-down. However, we couldn't beat the
price, and it was within walking distance of Casa Port station, and
the man at the desk not only spoke my Tashelheit, but actually came
from a town about two hours away and he knew the volunteer my friend
replaced.

I'd never been to the Hassan II Mosque, so we took a taxi out there
and wandered along the huge outdoor courtyards until just before
tinwuchi. Even Casa dies at sunset during Ramadan: we crossed the main
intersection downtown by the clock tower without a single car driving
by in any direction! Casa with a friend is much better than Casa
alone, and it was bittersweet saying goodbye the next morning at the
train station: she on her way to the airport, me on my way back down
to Kech.

My timing was terrible, so I ended up staying not one, but two nights
with a friend near Ouarzazate before heading up to VSN training. I had
a great time with her, and was glad to get to decompress a bit and
relax, as well as reconnect with some volunteer friends, but my timing
was terrible, and I wished I could have had the time to go home and
rest a bit and do laundry before the training…

Now that I'm back in site, it's hard to think of anything here as play
right now, but with breaking fast at the three families I'm closest
to, three nights in a row has helped me feel more re-integrated. Which
actually brings me into the next category of…


Faith:

Ramadan is a hard time for a lot of volunteers. Last year, I fasted 12
days, but came to the conclusion that it isn't really the best thing
for me to do, since I don't have the convictions of it being a part of
my religion.

I'm not an Islamic scholar, nor am I Muslim, so I fear my explanation
of Ramadan is probably severely lacking: I'm sure there are many
resources online that can give a full description and the history and
spirituality behind it, but my understanding is this: Ramadan is a
month in the Islamic calendar of fasting from sunrise to sunset.
Fasting includes no food, drink, water, smoking, swearing, sexual
activity, or letting anything pass through your lips. The reason for
this, people tell me, is to have people understand what it's like to
be hungry and encourage people to give alms to the poor, as well as
being a testimony of faith. Women do not fast the first 40 days after
giving birth, and menstruating women do not fast, nor do the sick,
though, at least with menstruating women, they are supposed to make up
the days.

Ramadan came early this year; the dates change in our calendar because
it is tied to the lunar calendar; so right now, sun up to sun down is
4 am until about 6:20 pm. Many people get up at 3:30 to eat a meal
called sHor. SHor can be anything from bread and butter or oil for the
poorer families, to tagine (stew) and soda for richer families.

The break fast meal is called lftor. Lftor is different depending on
location and culture, but in Tamazitinu, it generally consists of
dates, water, coffee with milk and sugar, aghrom n taguri (bread
stuffed with lard, cumin, hot pepper, oil, green onions, salt, pepper,
and other spices; ground beef in rich families), some other sort of
bread, such as misamin (an oily, flaky pancake), bagharir (a spongy
pancake, often served with udi- a rancid butter cooked with paprika
and green onions), or svenj (doughnuts), mskota (a type of cake),
hard-boiled egg with salt and cumin, some kind of juice or yogurt
drink, and harrira, a soup.

Last night, my old woman friend Touda told me that there were two
types of harrira: Berber and Arab. In Tamazitinu, we drink the Berber
harrira (aharrir), which is a thick, brownish soup with turnip,
cilantro, chickpeas, lentils, tomato, and beans, which is thickened
with a mixture of flour, ground corn flour, and sometimes bean flour.
The "Arab" harrira, which is more common in restaurants all over and
up north, is a red, thinner soup which doesn't have turnip, has a
tomato base, and sometimes has meat, noodles, and other things in it.
In Berber, the word for "to eat soup" literally translates to "to
drink soup," and people make fun of me if I slip up and say "to eat,"
asking if I'll eat it with a fork. We drink it without a spoon,
swirling around the hot soup to cool it down before sipping from the
edge of the bowl.

Other differences in an "Arab" or, the way I see it, a "City" lftor
and a "country" lftor are things like shebekiya, a honey-soaked
cookie, smmeta (a ground sweet eaten with small spoons that looks like
brown sugar clumps or even ground beef, but that is flour, sugar,
peanut, walnut, sesame seed, oil, and other nuts ground into a coarse
powder), juices, yogurt, and generally more variety than what we have.

I love breaking fast with people, and, though sometimes I feel guilty
if I haven't fasted, usually people are more than happy to invite me
over, though I always bring something to share like juice or yogurts.

After lftor, an hour or two later comes tea, and then an hour or so
after that, dinner. Many people eat three meals at night even if
they're fasting during the day. In between, there are a lot of special
Ramadan television shows, including one that I've seen three or four
episodes of that I cannot stand… I don't understand much of what's
going on in it, but I know that there's a young woman in it whose
father locks her up in a stable, ties her hands above her head and
hangs the rope from a tree all day, dehydrating her, then teasing her
with water and spilling it all over… at one point, she gets her
revenge and stabs him in the eye with a knife… In any case, it's
disturbing, though I think it's supposed to be somewhat slapstick. The
other Ramadan shows are a bit more to my liking.

I wondered if it would be hard not fasting at all this year, but most
people in my town have seemed to accept it with no problem, though a
few times a day, I get told that I have to fast to go to heaven. While
traveling, however, I got it more than I expected up north, even from
people who didn't speak Tashelheit. Among the most common places of
attempted conversion are taxis. I had several taxi drivers, all in
Arabic, tell me that I have to fast and become Muslim and why. It was
strange, because of the fact that I don't even speak Arabic, and could
only piece together bits and pieces of what they were saying.

A few of my friends here have been really nice about it and told me to
tell them all, "It's none of your business!" if they try to force it,
though usually a "It's not my religion; I follow the religion of my
parents," and if they insist, "If you moved to America, would you
become Christian and not fast and take off your headscarf? I feel the
same way about my religion," works well enough.

I do have to say that I love several things about Ramadan though, and
I'm not talking about the delicious but heartburn-inducing food. I
love the fact that so many people fast, and that all over Morocco,
just as all over the world, millions of people break fast together
with a date, or a sip of water or coffee, or a piece of bread. I love
the fact that the Koran television shows: the stations that play the
chanting of the Koran all day, subtitle in English sometimes during
Ramadan, so I can follow along and see what it is that the man in the
house absentmindedly chants along with the television, so I can feel a
little bit more understanding than I would otherwise. I love the fact
that a city of millions can come to almost a standstill, and that a
beach full of life can empty as far as the eye can see, except a
middle-aged couple, sitting on a bench, eating a picnic lftor, looking
out at the sunset over the sea.


Struggles:

I alluded to there being a disappointment back when I was talking
about the Cultural Week. I haven't written about it anywhere, but I
guess it's good to let it out and vent about it.

There are two associations in Tamazitinu. One of them, the water
association, doesn't do anything really except maintain running water
in town and collect payments; my first month in-site, the president of
that association asked me if I was a virgin, and so because of that,
and because it's not really an active association, I don't have that
much of a reason to work with them.

The other association is slightly more active and has accomplished
some incredible projects in the last six or eight years. Since my
first month or two in site, I've been trying to meet with them and
work with them, but it's never happened. Nobody tells me when the
meetings are, no matter who I ask, nobody can tell me who the
president is (I've been told three different people), but the members
say they want to work with me.

In June, I finally, after a year in site, got to sit down and have a
meeting with them, though it was mainly because some of the men who
work for the Commune (local government) helped me maneuver.

I didn't know what the purpose of the meeting was until the day
before; I thought it was maybe just a general meeting and came
prepared with a small presentation, copies of the project framework
(the goals of the Community Health in Rural Morocco Peace Corps
program), excited and ready to finally work with someone and open the
door for further collaboration.

It ends up that the meeting was specifically to work on a project they
had coming up: a Cultural Week. While listening to them talk, I came
up with some suggestions for ways to work womens' health in without
them having to do any work, as well as some ideas that would involve
them heavily if they were interested. I gathered up my strength and
courage and explained that I was open to helping with whatever needed
help, and threw out my ideas.

The idea to work with kids to have events for them one day, which was
the idea that would mean that I'd have to have help from them, was
shot down, but they seemed open to me having a health table out the
whole week. Fantastic. I proposed a list of five topics that were
approved, and set up times for the table to be open for women to drop
by at. Fantastic.

The date was still soft, so I kept checking with the adjunct president
(don't ask), over the next few weeks. I recruited some fellow PCVs to
come help work the table, and got together materials. Almost
immediately, I got bad news.

"We only want your table for 3 days." Fine. The date changed. Fine.
The date changed again… and again… I felt bad for all the PCVs I
recruited, so I prepared to do it alone.

Then, more bad news. "We want you to do just one lesson, one day for
the women, okay?"

At least I was on the official schedule. I worked to come up with the
most interesting and informative presentation I could come up with on
pregnancy care, touching on home births and birth control.

Three days before, I called the adjunct president. He said all was
good. I heard nothing over the weekend from him, so, an hour before
the presentation on Monday, I was at the Neddi, ready to go.

However, the Neddi director knew nothing about it. I went to the
association. "We don't think anyone will come, but we'll set up anyway
for it."

I offered to go recruit people into coming anyway; they said not to.
We set up chairs. Three men from the association came in. "No women
are coming. Just men."

My mind raced. I could do a lesson for men; it might be even better
since they hold a lot of power in family dynamics. It wouldn't be as
well prepared, but it'd be better than nothing. I offered. They turned
me down.

"Why weren't you here earlier? There were lots of men earlier, maybe
50 or 60. Why didn't you do it then?" Nobody had told me that. It
wasn't on the schedule. You better believe I'd have been there if I
had known.

Twenty minutes before the lesson was supposed to happen, I stepped
outside to call a friend to vent my frustrations and focus myself
before the lesson. When I came back, the chairs were in a different
position, and the association men were in the other room. One of the
teachers came out, after they all turned to look at me and talk
quietly to one another.

"Ummm… nobody is going to come, so we're just going to have a meeting
for men. Sorry. Maybe you can do your lesson at the clinic or
something."

My dad called as I was leaving, walking through the fields with all my
things so nobody would see how flushed I was.

Frustration. Anger. Hurt. I know that there's no reason for me to take
it personally, that's how things fly sometimes, but I had worked hard
on this and was excited to finally be able to work with the
association, hoping this would be the event that would open the door
to a successful Peace Corps-style collaboration. But I had been shot
down, and it hurt and I was upset.

I thought about asking for a site change: to move to another town for
the remainder of my service. The schools don't want to work with me
when I tried to take that avenue. There are no associations to work
with. The sbitar is great, but nobody goes to the clinic to learn;
they go because they're sick or they take their young children to get
vaccinations and have a million things on their mind… the last thing
that they want is to be forced into a health lesson. The most
successful lessons are the 2 or 3- on one pregnancy discussions I have
with pregnant women, but that's because it's relevant to them at that
point in time, and the small groups make it easier for me to
facilitate information that is specific to them.

Rather than stay bitter at my town, I hiked to a close douar that I
haven't spent much time with. It literally entailed me walking up to
men and asking "Do you have an association? Can I meet with the
president, please?" and within ten minutes, six men were in a room
with me in someones house, coffee and tea on the table, talking to me
about their wishes and hopes for their douar, which, incidentally,
include several things in my project framework. Great! The reality is
that the association is not very well organized, and my nurse said
that working with them could prove very tricky and problematic, but I
know that after Ramadan, I can possibly see if they might be willing
to collaborate, specifically on a project that would be a dream of
mine if we could complete it.

Which brings me to my last category….

Hopes:

This douar's association has done some amazing things. They've built a
clinic of their own accord, but unfortunately, there's nobody
available to come serve as a nurse there, and since they built it
alone, it's not built to ministry specifications, so it's sitting
there empty. They've also started work on a Neddi—a women's center—but
don't have the money to complete it. This is something I'd love to be
able to work on with them, but since projects of mine have to relate
to health, it'd be finishing the women's center with a twist. I won't
go into it now, because I know better than to get my hopes up, but I'm
crossing my fingers.

When I told some of my buddies at the Commune what happened with the
association in town and how frustrated I was, they told me I was being
silly and not casting a wide enough net. In an amazing gesture, they
told me that if I typed up something in French about potential
collaborations, why I was here, and what my organization was about,
that they would translate it to Arabic for me and help get a meeting
with the associations in douars in the surrounding areas. Amazing.
Unfortunately, these men from the commune are on vacation for Ramadan,
and I, again, know better than to get my hopes too high, but I'm
encouraged at the potential here.

I've also typed up a proposal for weekly school lessons, which, if
approved, will be quite a large commitment. There are 4 primary
schools within 1.5 hours walk of my house; the biggest school has 400
students (16-ish classes), the smallest maybe around 100 (4 classes).
My nurse and I have been talking about this, and I've finally created
the curriculum for it, but my goal is to go to one of the four schools
once a week, visit each of the classes, and do a health lesson. Even
if it's just once a week, it's still a very full day especially when
you include 3 hours of hiking for some of them, and teaching lessons
in a non-native language, especially Berber, is exhausting for me. I'm
a bit nervous about getting approved, but I know if I run into
problems, my nurse will fight for me, and, though it may take a month
to get it, I'm confident I can get the Ministry of Education to give
me a letter of permission, which might help as well. Keep your fingers
crossed for me on this one; if it goes well, maybe we can organize an
educational field day at the end of the school year before I go home.

I'm also trying to push for doing a booth at souk (weekly market) once
a month on HIV/AIDS education, however, that's something that I need
help with. I've drafted a permission letter, but I need to meet with
nearby volunteers to see if they're onboard or not.

There are my hopes for the future; for the next nine months. I can't
believe my Peace Corps gestation is that of a child. It's going to fly
by.

…..

So, there's the blog entry for those of you who were asking for it,
specifically that person who I like to call Mom. Yes, Mom. I updated
this just for you. And, in fact, I wouldn't be surprised if you are
the only one who goes through the entire thing. If you did,
TbarkAllah.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

August 9, 2008

I've been in the throes of wedding season. I thought this year I
wouldn't go to as many as I did last year (around 15), but it's not
even halfway through August and I've been to… seven, so it looks like
I'll be making the target while trying not to.

Now, this is what happens every time I leave the house right now.
Someone I know well (or, in several cases, someone I don't know well
or even know their names) will grab me and drag me to a wedding. In
one case, a few nights ago, I kept politely declining, walking towards
my house and away from the throng of people going to three different
weddings and the fifth time I said no to someone, I realized it'd be
easier to go for awhile than to keep trying to go home.

When I say "go to a wedding," it never means the full 3-4 days, but at
least one event one day for an hour or four or five. The first two,
that I went to at the end of last month, I was dragged to by
neighbors. The first one, happened on a quite annoying day. There were
10 weddings going on at the time, and all ten brides dressed up in the
typical "abroq" outfit: a white kaftan with colored wraps, a white
painted face with saffron painted on in a design and rhinestones glued
on the brides' cheeks, bright lipstick, khol eyeliner, hennaed hands,
and the abroq: a head dress including a shiny red patterned scarf, a
silver chain with charms dangling from it, a green or red bundle of
yarn tied together at intervals with metal sequins sewn where the
bundles are gathered, and the equivalent of Christmas tree tinsel of
varying colors. The abroq is handmade and there is a small cylindrical
cushion sitting horizontally under the top layer.

I set off at about 6 to see the procession of brides, but a neighbor
said it wouldn't happen for about two hours. I went home and set off
at 7:30, but when I got there, it ends up I missed the whole thing,
but as I set off to go home, the neighbor found me and took me to her
friend's wedding.

This night was the first night she spent in his house (and everything
you would think that entails, though my particular tribe does not
require the dance around a white sheet with a bloodspot, lhamdullah),
so I didn't see the bride or the groom. Instead, a neighbor I have
talked to a few times took me in and sat me down. I explained to a few
people who are Ait lkharij in France who I was, danced for a few
minutes with literally every single eye on me (the joys of being a
foreigner), ate dinner, and sat with three groups of people, each of
which I had a friend in. All in all it was fun and I was invited to
the rest of the festivities for the next few days but didn't go.

That weekend, one of my friends had a little get together dinner,
which was, as always, a great time.

The second wedding I've been to this season happened on the day where
the bride wears the abroq, and her aheyduss dance includes a large
pole with palm fronds and, in her case, an Amazigh "Z" symbol in
Christmas tree tinsel.

Another neighbor encouraged me to go to the house which I call the
"Castle on the Hill"- one of 7 large two story cement houses in my
immediate neighborhood that is empty 11 months out of the year but is
full of people in August: an immigrant family's summer house. This
house is huge and I've always been curious.

It was a fairly relaxed wedding, and some girls (aged 14-24) called me
over and we talked and giggled through the tea, basta (vanilla wafer
cookies), peanuts, couscous, meat tagine with olives, and fruit. I met
some girls who study in my friend's site: Tamazitinu doesn't have a
middle school or high school, so the girls board during the year,
coming home only for l'Eid and the summer. A few even knew passable
English. There was also a girl who "lives" in the castle on the hill:
she was 24 years old, Moroccan but born in France, summering in
Tamazitinu her whole life.

The third wedding was a random lunch I was dragged to; I still don't
know who the bride even was, but I literally couldn't refuse, and was
embarrassed as I had my bike and camel pack (water holding) backpack
and was sweaty and gross in non-wedding clothes.

The fourth was exciting but long: I didn't stay for all the
festivities even, but I went with some friends and stayed from about
10 at night until 3:30 am. There was aheyduss, talking to family
members from France, the bride changed clothes three times (all more
"modern" than the Abroq: a white Kaftan with a plastic silver crown, a
red jabador (two piece outfit) with a red scarf in her hair, which was
let down and free for this night, and a white wedding dress while the
groom wore a black tuxedo), and finally, right before we left, the
bride and groom fed each other milk, dates, and exchanged rings. They
were sitting on two layers of ponjs, with the traditional yellow
hand-decorated with metal sequins backdrop, something in Arabic
spelled out on it in Christmas tree tinsel, random Christmas lights
and light ropes in the background, and a large blinking starburst of
lights. There was also a fake aquarium that lit up with pictures of
fish swimming inside.

The next wedding was just an aheyduss dance: typical, and I didn't
stay for dinner.

The last two were tonight: one was what I think is the most "western"
family in town: they have a flatscreen television and spotlights with
black leather couches in the living room and three showers, including
one with a huge, oversized bathtub. The bride was from a place called
Kelaa M'Gouna, and she brought her own aheyduss dancers; 7 women and 7
men that dressed in their tradition and circled around each other,
singing and almost running in star formations, lines, circles, and
arcs. It was exciting to see a different tradition, and it feels like
half of the town came out to watch.

I had planned on staying for dinner, but a friend who is at her
engagement step had her ceremony. I didn't make it even to dinner: I
left at 11:30 and it hadn't started. I was just exhausted. I was
excited to be taken under the wing of one of her friends though. I
wish I could be here for her actual wedding; the family is black and
they have different wedding traditions, including something that I
don't quite understand that involves putting a bowl on the bride's
head. I was one of maybe five white people there, and it was strange
how nobody mentioned that the other wedding had hundreds of people
there and this one had maybe sixty. There is blatant racism in my
community, so every opportunity to show people that I am friends with
women of all ages and all races makes me happy.

Other than weddings, I spent most of last Thursday at my nearest
volunteer friend's site and am going back tomorrow to help her with a
project. We heard an aheyduss outside her house, but then heard other
music that sounded more sub-Saharan African.

We went outside to look, and it was a group of men and boys from
Erfoud, wearing all white with red accent and red knitted or crochet
caps with cowry shells on them. The men's origins were sub-Saharan,
and they used a different sort of large drum with two drumsticks: one
crooked and one straight, as well as sets of cymbals that were barbell
shaped. They were traveling around and performing for money. I really
enjoyed their music, as did a man across the street from her who was
more into it, dancing and clapping and smiling more than I've ever
seen anyone get into the music here.

My little girls who come over, especially the core 4 or 5 of them,
have been coming over a lot recently. Their new favorite thing to do
is to shower at my house. I don't mind; it's kind of fun combing their
hair afterwards, and they told me they like to do it at my house
because at their houses, they only shower once a week whereas they'd
shower every day at my house if they could. As long as it doesn't fill
my septic pit, I'm fine with it.

Sunday, July 27, 2008

July 18, 2008

Today has been the beginning of a sort of project in my site. Last weekend, I got together with two friends in the province to write the Training of Trainers grant. We still need to do the budget, but other than that, the project seems to be coming together well.

Today, however, started our girl’s morning camp. There are three volunteers in a nearby province who are going around and putting on fun camps in people sites, and I’m collaborating with them for one in Tamazitinu.

Unfortunately, no adults from my town really are interested in helping, so it’s just the four of us and, today, 50 girls. We started outside (in the shade) and played Simon Says, sang some songs, and tossed a Frisbee around. Then, they went inside and made nametags, and we split into two groups. I led a health lesson and game with one group, the other group made collages of their dreams for the future. The health lesson was over soon, so we also started learning a little English.

It was only three hours, but I really had a great time and can’t wait for tomorrow morning. I’m also beginning to wonder if this is something I could continue on a smaller scale on my own this summer once or twice a week.

July 23, 2008

Wow. Well, I’d say that the camp was a pretty resounding success for how last-minute it seemed to me.

The next three days went quite well. We started each day with “sports” that included games like Sharks and Minnows (“Big fish and little fish”), Ring around the Rosy, races, Duck, duck, goose (“chicken, chicken, cow”), and Frisbee, then went to songs.

I loved singing the songs with the kids. We did Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Tows, Row Your Boat, Frere Jacques (in three languages: French, English, and Dutch: two girls live in the Netherlands but are from here originally and are visiting for the summer), and a song I learned from French language immersion camp: “Ce n’est pas moi!” The kids all sang the National Anthem of Morocco at the end of singing, and a few were okay leading in traditional Tamazight songs. My favorite part about this is that now some of my neighbor kids will come to me on the street and sing these songs to me. “Katy, Katy, ‘hey sholds neesntoes, neesntoes!’”

We’d break up after songs and sports and I continued with the general hygiene game as well as a dental hygiene lesson, throwing in dances like the Macarena or random English lessons as needed. Some of the other PCVs did art projects. One day, we made friendship bracelets; another day we did a neighborhood trash pick up, and yet another I showed videos on the new family laws and had a discussion with some of the older girls about why staying in school was important.

I wish I had another summer so I could do the camp again, or go around to other nearby sites and collaborate with other PCVs to spread the day-camp love. Or, wait. Actually, summer is my least favorite time of year here. I love that the figs on my tree are ripening at the rate of about 3 figs a day, and I like the culture of sitting outside and “breezing” (“datrwHmt?”), but I really get frustrated with the people coming back from working abroad. The PCVs who came over kept commenting on people not wearing headscarves who were in their late teens, the plethora of cars (though the fact that they all had EU plates should have been a giveaway), and the few kids who came in speaking fluent French, Spanish, or Dutch; it seemed feeble when I told them “It’s just because it’s summer. Everyone’s here on ‘vacation’ visiting family.” My next-door neighbor, a man I never met, has spent the last 36 years in France and his teenaged children are French citizens.

I know it sounds whiny, but I really dislike the atmosphere right now in Tamazitinu with Ait l Kharij (the people from abroad) here in town. I know I’m more of an outsider than they are, but the cars, the fact that there are clumps of men “breezing” on every block who stare at me, and people trying to talk to me in French all the time, or wearing nicer clothes than I own at home really changes the entire feeling of my town.

At least it means wedding season is coming up!

Friday, July 11, 2008

July 1st 2008

Well, today was somewhat of a momentous occasion, though, let me tell you, I’m not in a very good mood despite that.

After over a year of being in my site, I finally was able to go to a local association meeting. I’ve been trying to do so, unsuccessfully for a year. It finally happened today.

In some ways it was better than I expected, in some ways, worse. The association is putting together a cultural week, and I finagled my way into doing at least 3 health sessions during the week. The only other victory was that they asked my input for a slogan for the week. Better than nothing, I suppose.

However, I left the meeting early (though I sweated it out for 3.5 hours) because I thought I was going to pass out from the heat, I could only understand about 20-30% of the meeting, and, honestly, because I got angry about something I heard.

“Just men,” and then everyone agreed. I don’t know what they were talking about. I asked a teacher sitting next to me, and he joked around saying everything should be just for men because women are difficult, etc. but in joking about it, he didn’t answer the question. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that I don’t know how much women were even included in this week. I felt like I really intruded on the meeting, being the only woman with over 20 men, and though they respected my opinion and included me, the uphill battle just made me want to cry.

This wasn’t helped by the fact that I had a conversation with some of the commune guys earlier today about sexual inequality in relationships, which led to some rather inappropriate but enlightening conversation. I need to look up what Islam says about things, because I heard some really interesting arguments to what I see as, well, to be gentle about it, unfair practices…

All in all, some of the association guys are good guys and I think would be good allies, but I’m really disheartened about a lot. They were already including some health lessons (though not as extensively), there are already health projects that don’t involve me going on in town… I sometimes really don’t know why I’m here in my site. At all.

I do know one thing: I’m going to do everything in my power, even more than I’ve been doing already, to give women and girls the most opportunities I can.

July 2, 2008

Today, my Carte de Sejour (like a green card) expires. It’s so strange being over halfway done. At least I have my receipt which shows that I’ve already applied for my new one, so I’m in-country legally. It’s always strange going to the gendarmes office to apply, get the receipt renewed, or talk to them about certain things. We have a new head gendarme now, one who speaks Tashelehit rather than just Arabic and French, which is nice, but my favorite thing about him is the calendar on his desk.

Many offices (my nurse and doctor, for example, as well as the commune guys and the gendarmes) and even the dashboards of some tobis’s have these large cardboard calendars that are distributed by gas stations or pharmacies. They’re for a whole year, with each month in a column, the Arabic calendar dates, days of the week, and solar calendar dates all listed one beneath the next. I love watching people circle dates on them, or doodle on them.

The head gendarme has one on his desk, and every corner of it is covered in doodles. The large letters on top have the closed areas colored in (eg: the two “bubbles” in a capitol “B,” or the inner circle of an “o”), days are circled, things are underlined, there are different colors, small drawings, lines, and, really, it’s just covered. I don’t know why it makes me giggle so much, but it makes the man in, what to most people here would be a rather intimidating position, seem so human. I know that’s exactly what mine would look like if I had one in my office.

Today was a better day. I did a load of laundry, which dries in a matter of hours in the heat, had watermelon, breakfast cereal I found in my souk town, and made gazpacho and homemade “cheese.” I also took a cold shower, which always makes life better these days.

This afternoon, I went to my host family’s house and played with my little host-sisters, and then my host-mom and I went to visit two newborn babies: one is 3 days old, one is 8 days. On my way back home, I sat on the ground and talked with some of my neighbors for awhile. This made me really happy: it felt really normal and right and I finally am feeling like I know the people around me instead of just my hostfamily neighborhood. Another woman, a neighbor, told me yesterday that she was sad that I had never came over and that she liked me and that I should come over to her house. The little things like that make life feel better.

I smell now like perfume and random herbs that I don’t know in English because of the “baby showers.” I don’t think I’ve ever talked about the typical celebratory “tray of goodies” at newborn baby visits, or sometimes before weddings or at sedaca parties.

While everyone sits around the baby, normally covered in a piece of lace and swaddled so it looks like a small mummy or a Glow-Worm doll, a female family member of the new mother keeps a pot of hot mint tea (or wormwood, spearmint, lemon vervein, or a combination of other herbs in the hot, sweet tea) going and passes around vanilla wafer cookies and peanuts.

When a woman walks in… yes, this is a women’s “celebration,” she greets everyone in the room and slips a bit of money to the new mother, who surreptitiously stores it somewhere among her palette on the floor. Her face is often covered in saffron: a watered-down version of the decorative face paint used during weddings.

After sitting and a cup or two of tea, the main table in the room normally has a tray with all sorts of smelly goodies on it; usually a combination of the following:

- Perfume (either a type from Taiwan, which is called simply “Taiwan,” one of a few other brands available in Morocco, or, if the family has immigrants in Europe, a French brand). This is sprayed rather liberally.

- Stronger perfumes or oils of scents like sandalwood, which come in tiny bottles and are applied with fingers rather than sprayed.

- Rose water, usually the bright pink variety in a spray bottle from Kelaat M’Gouna, a town in the Valley of the Roses.

- Mswayk; walnut bark or root, that is bitter after chewing for a few minutes. This turns the chewer’s tongue brown. As an aside, mswayk-flavored toothpaste is available here from Colgate brand. I think it’s really Colgate, though it could be a rip-off.

- “Henna” for the hair. This is not really henna or even from the same plant and has another official name, but it’s a mixture of a smelly (rather nice, sweet but earthy smell) brown herb powder mixed with water. Women will take off their headscarves and spoon the mixture on their hair. When the water evaporates, it glumps up in hair, but it comes out easily.

- Taghzolte: khol for the eyes (the powdered eyeliner that is actually applied inside the eyelid rather than outside).

- Green lipstick that turns pinkish when applied to lips.

- Saffron paste (saffron, water, sometimes sugar) applied with a Q-tip to temples, nose, corners of eyes, and sometimes right at the hairline in a line, sort of outlining the top of the face.

July 10, 2008

It’s been awhile.

We had a fantastic July 4th party at a pool nearby. It was expensive to get in, but well worth the swim as well as the fun times later that night cooking dinner together and sleeping on a friends’ roof, under the stars.

I really miss being able to sleep outside. I have a tent, and spent a few minutes setting it up outside to be comfortable: ponjs, a thick mat I bought that’s rather comfortable, my pillow, my combination flashlight/short wave radio, water, etc, but it was hotter in the tent than in my house because it blocked the breeze. There are chickens and who knows what nasty bugs outside, so I don’t want to sleep on the ground outside my house, though there’s a cement ceiling of a new house they’re building in my courtyard. On my very long “to-do” list now is to make a ladder (or buy one) so I can sleep on that roof at night. Right now, my fan and surrounding myself with several bottles of water I’ve frozen in the freezer works to some extent, but I still wake up soaked with sweat. The roof on the 4th was perfect and it makes me really want to do whatever I can to do that.

Other big news: I got a cat! He’s a cute little kitten: 3 or 4 months, I think, and he eats a lot. He likes to play and also will let me cuddle with him a little bit, but the best news is that I haven’t seen a mouse or any sign that I have any mice in the lat week. He’s a cutie, though I keep him out of where I keep my computer when I’m not there because he likes to bite wires. He’s also litterbox trained (thank God!) and really clean. People think it’s funny how much I feed him and how much we “love” our pets, but all in all, I think I’m glad to have him, so far. I named him Zika, after one of my CBT (training) hostfamily’s goats.

I’ve been somewhat busy trying to work on things in my site, but they’re slow. This weekend, we’re writing a grant for the Training of Trainers that will hopefully take place in November; we’re still working on incinerator things, though it’s a real pain to get logistics done. The biggest problems I’m having are with getting an association or organization to commit to paying for the butagaz as well as making sure people who said they’d help out really will. Cross your fingers for me.


I’m also working with some other volunteers to hopefully host a 4-day “camp” for some of the kids in my town. It’s going, but slow, though I’m really excited, and if it works out well, will maybe continue it on my own once or twice a week during the summer on my own.

What else? Right now, the big social time is after l3ssir (though I don’t know how to transliterate it); one of the calls to prayer that is happening at about 5:30 new time, 4:30 old time. I will explain that in a second; it’s a phenomenon that’s made life annoying recently. But I’ve forced myself almost every day over the last week and a half to get out and be social from about 5:30 to 8 or 9 at night, and it has made life feel much more enjoyable. I feel like I’ve finally re-integrated and like I do have friends at my site, it just took two weeks to re-establish myself in the community. I might not have a best friend here right now, but I have families I enjoy spending time with, and I’ve gotten to know some of my immediate neighbors a lot more.

Being out and about has inspired me to want to teach an English class for girls over 14 or so, so hopefully I will start that in the next week or so. I also, as I said, may try to do a 1-2x a week summer camp with play and health lessons, maybe some fun English or French classes to help pass the time in the heat. We’ll see.


I still haven’t talked to the association president about exactly what I’m doing for the cultural week, but I still have two weeks or so to prepare for that, so hopefully that will go well. Cross your fingers for me there too.

Oh, and new time versus old time. I don’t think I’ve talked about this yet. Morocco had its first “Daylight savings” time change this year. The cities seem to have mostly adjusted, however, in my town where things go by the sun and calls to prayer more than actual time, most people use “old time,” so I always have to double-check. I’ve missed my tobis to get into my souk town already once (though was able to flag one down that was passing through, lhamdullah!), and now have to wait to go home whenever I leave my site until 6:30 in the evening!

Wedding season is coming up soon. I can’t wait to get all dressed up, but I probably won’t go to as many this year as last. I honestly don’t enjoy sitting in a cramped room for hours unable to stretch out my legs while every muscle in my body falls asleep, sitting on the ground for long periods of time eating couscous with dirty spoons or drinking hot sticky sweet tea from unclean glasses. I’ll do the aheyduss (dance lines) but probably will end up avoiding the meals, though I do love the couscous!

Other momentous news: my site got internet. I’m disappointed that nobody’s capitalized on this and built a cyber, and am not willing to dish out the 6000/ryals a month (300 dirhams= $41) for the slow connection, but I checked email at a family’s house the other day and was stupefied. I also pulled up the site that had pictures from when my family came to Tamazitinu to visit and the girl who was in the room thought it was really cool. The connection was too spotty to do Skype, which is a big reason why I won’t get it, but it was absolutely insane to me. Of course, it shouldn’t be, as when my parents were here, my dad kept getting emails on his Blackberry and even sent a picture of my house to a friend of his from my site.

This, in comparison to the fact that one of my neighbors I’m just now getting to know well told me that she’s had 10 children but 5 died before the age of 2.

It’s been a year, and I’m still absolutely stunned at the rate some things but not others go through “development.”

I need to wash dishes, cook dinner, and pack for tomorrow but I feel lazy and just want to type. I hope Zika’s okay if I leave him alone for two days. I think he should be.